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Thursday, September 27, 2012

Marriage Do or Don’t: Changing your name

This past summer, I read a New York Times wedding announcement that made my eyes pop...

A couple named Annie Ma and Jacob Weaver were BOTH changing their last names to Ma-Weaver. What a cool idea!

Honestly, when Alex and I got married, it didn't even occur to me to change my name. Alex's last name is Williams, but I kept Goddard. My name is part of my identity, and because we got married when I was 30, my last name was already part of my career. When we have parties or send letters, we call ourselves the "Goddard-Williams household." My one concern was whether our future children would have a different name from mine, but when Toby came along, we just gave him a hyphenated last name.

My sister changed her name to Kalanithi when she got married. She and her husband sometimes sign cards "Team Kalanithi," which I think is really cute.

Have you seen The Last Name Project? Men and women write short posts explaining their decisions to change, keep or combine their names. (This one was especially fascinating!)

So, I'm curious: Will (or did) you change your last name after getting married? Or hyphenate or combine them? (If you are going to change your name, the site Hitch Switch helps you do it easily.) What's the last name you were born with? Do you like the way your partner's name sounds with yours? What about your future kids' last names? I'd LOVE to hear your thoughts...

(Photo by The Sartorialist)

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ruth said...

My maiden name is the same as my husband's last name so I didn't have to think about it (we aren't related). It was great that I didn't have to change any of my documents! Friends joked that I should hyphenate to Cho-Cho :) I think that if this wasn't my situation I would lean towards keeping my last name. In Korea the woman keep their maiden names...

Phoebe said...

I do not like hyphenated last names, so I won't be doing that. I don't have a middle name, so honestly, I don't think it'll bother me at all to go first, maiden, new last.

Anna Culp said...

I changed my name because it was the norm in my circles, and it's more convenient, and because my husband was surprisingly offended when I mentioned the option of not changing it...then a couple of years later I strongly regretted it (I love my husband and his family, but their last name is no more mine than mine is theirs, and I prefer to declare our family as individuals who have merged lives with different names), and my husband actually changed his mind, too--now he thinks it would be good if I had kept the name I was born with. I will change it back as soon as we have a few hundred dollars to spend on that. We gave our daughter my maiden name as a second middle name, so both of our last names are in there, but not hyphenated, because it's "normal" to pass last names paternally. :P In an Anthropology class, I heard of a culture where the daughters get the maternal line's last name, and the sons get the paternal line's last name--I think that system makes the most sense!

madeline said...

I will be getting married in April and I will change my name. It was never a question to me-- it seems to me to be more of a symbol of us starting our lives together as a family.

Ella said...

In my country (Czech Republic) almost 99% women take husband´s name after marriage + ová. I am Lorenzová, my boyfriend is Fridrich. So, I probable will be Fridrichová one day. However, because his first wife is Fridrichová, I would like to have both names to be different: Eliška Fridrichová Lorenzová. Two names are long. I prefere shorter variation: Fridrich Lorenzová, but this is not possible.

n said...

Well.... Originally, Mrs. was a shortened version of mistress, a word that used to mean "wife"

So I guess she could have called herself Mrs. Pre-Adams but it wouldn't really be accurate...

I took my husbands last name and changed my last name to my middle name, so I got to keep both! I wasn't given a middle name at birth so it worked out nicely. My mother-in-law did the same thing.

When we had a daughter we didn't give her a middle name so she could carry on the tradition.

Fen said...

my parents combined theirs - they got married 25 years ago so it was very forward thinking of them! :) I have no idea what I'll do when I get married though, my name is long enough as it is, I can't go for the triple barrel!! x

JSKF said...

I love my maiden name and since there were no boys to carry on the name, I chose to make it my second middle name when I got married. I don't use my first middle name on anything so my professional name is my first name, my maiden name, and my married name. When my husband and I got married, we joked about making a new last name from both our names...we didn't officially but just about everyone who knows us calls us by our combined last name. For me, it's the best of both worlds.

Liz at Eldy's Pocket said...

My last name is Davis and while I don't especially love the name it means a lot to me. I don't want to lose that part of my identity when I get married. I'm also attached to my middle name (Terese) because my mom and I share it, so I'm not willing to get rid of that either. I will probably keep my name just as it is and give all of my kids the middle name Davis and their father's last name. My boyfriend would never consider taking my last name but has a little bit of a hard time accepting the fact that I would never take his either. I definitely have some time to think though so I'll cross that bridge when I get there.

Sarah said...

I got caught in the romance of getting married and becoming one family with my husband so I changed my last name, even though for most of my adult life I had planned on keeping my last name. Now I totally regret it. :( My husband was strongly in favor of me changing it (though he understand it's my decision) and now we have a son who has hubby's last name. So I feel like if I change it back, 1. people will think we're divorcing and 2. my last name will be different from my family's!

natalie said...

Since my maiden name is Hooker I always thought I couldn't wait for the day to change it. But then I married a man with the last name of Adams and it seemed so boring. I wanted to hyphenate but Hooker-Adams sounds horrible. Then we joked around about both changing to Adam's Hooker. But in the end I just switched to Adams.

stwig said...

What a great topic! I did change my last name, but I also did things a little out of order- my husband and I met, fell in love, had a baby, and then got married when said baby was 3 years old. So when I was married, I had already had 3 years of having a different last name than my child, and I wanted to have the same name. My first name is long and both of our last names were long, too, so a hyphenated name was out. I didn't think I had any problem letting go of my name, but I had a hard time remembering to sign it correctly after I had changed it.

Just a few months ago I was somewhat rudely questioned by another female about why I changed my last name after I was married. I think it's fantastic when women choose to keep their names. Or when women and men- or women & women or men & men- select a new hyphenation or hybrid (I'm thinking of John Ono Lennon...) of their names. Pro-choice, all the way. Let's respect each other's choices!

hannahblog said...

A lot of people mention wanting a team name, and that totally makes sense. But why does the team name have to be the guy's name? If the decision is reached after weighing both option, then I would understand. But it always seems to be, "We wanted to have the same family name... so I changed to HIS name".

It just boggles me why the decision to change or not change always falls on the women. It's a huge decision and an emotional one too. And for guys, the extent of their decision making often seems limited to "do I support whatever decision my future wife comes to, or do I push her toward taking my name?" it's a rare guy who even considers changing their own names.

I kept my own name and aside from my husband, very few people supported the decision. We even specifically asked our DJ not to introduce us as Mr. and Mrs. Hislastname at the wedding and he did anyway. I made an announcement on Facebook about keeping my own name and even in the immediate comments after the post you can see people comgratulating me as the new Mrs. Hisname. My best friend who knows I'm not changing my name even called me Mrs. hisname. My mom called me after I returned from our honeymoon to encourage changing my name for the sake of our future children.

Arch, it's mindbogglingly frustrating. I want to just scream at people, stop stripping me of my name!! It's my god damn name, it's part of who I am and I've had it for 27 years.

I also don't want to be a Mrs.

Why should women make their marital status known immediately when men can to be Mister for their whole lives?

Mel said...

My mom never changed her last name.

My boyfriend and I talk about this pretty often, actually. I am not against taking his last name and turning my last name into a second middle name. He doesn't care. He's actually leaning toward me keeping my last name because he wants me to still have my own identity.

My last name is pretty unique, because my parents took a saying that they really liked and condensed it into my last name. Nobody else in my family has it, and I have yet to meet anybody else with the same name.

That said, I really want my kids to have it as part of their name. Doesn't have to be hyphenated, but I really want it to be a second middle name. I want some part of my identity and my lineage to be part of them. My boyfriend is really against that, too. He wants only his family name to be part of our kids' names.

I sense a lot of discussion in the future.

Unknown said...

If tradition were reversed and men had to jump through all the hoops that women do in order to change their names, just how long do you think the tradition would last? I kept my last name and my husband wholeheartedly respects this decision. My two little boys have my last name as their middle name and we've never encountered any issue traveling, crossing borders, submitting documentation, none.

isabel said...

did not change my name and not about to :)
when we sign cards we just write our both names! our son does have my husbands name.

www.mamajulesbrussels.blogspot.com

emmy d said...

For most of my life I never wanted to change my last name (Dziubek) because it is so unique and I liked standing out. Over time though it just became frustrating to say and spell over the phone, to have EVERY cashier ask about so when I finally got married I changed to my husband's much easier last name (Lewis). I moved my maiden name to my middle name since I still felt like it was part of my identity - and since my new name is SO common I wanted to stand out a little! I am still getting used to it, but I also felt like it added another connection for my husband and I - something that we now have in common.

SD said...

In Spain we have 2 last names, the first one comes from the father and the second one comes from the mother. No one has to change any name when they marry, and everyone give their first last name to their children. It's easy for us, no changes, no decisions ;)

Diana Fox said...

I LOVE my last name. It's Fox. Pretty cool, right? Unfortunately, my fiances name isn't as easy or cute. But it is mandatory that I take his name. He has always said it is very important to him that I take his name because it is the only thing he can really give me that isn't monetary. So I'm going to hide my middle name and make Fox my new middle name. Changing me name is really the only thing he's ever asked of me so I will. Oh, and to not get married during football season. ;)

HeirloomSplendor said...

I LOVE that idea

Mia J-M said...

Thanks for this post! My husband and I both hyphenated our names and I've been preparing a blog post on it for a bit. I finally finished it today and included some of the pros and cons I've discovered. It's definitely not for everyone (and it's caused me a few headaches) but I love it! Here's the link: http://2talkofmany-things.blogspot.com/2012/10/whats-in-name.html

Kate @ Savour Fare said...

I got married at 24 (pretty young, in my circle) and I didn't change my name. My husband has a completly unobjectionable name -- I just don't use it myself because it's not MY name. Kids both have his last name, but my last name as a middle name. Our address stamp says "My last name/ his last name" and we refer to the My Last Name His Last Name Family (which he objects to. I just roll my eyes. It's not just his house, and I'm part of the family too. And I don't see him handling any of our social correspondence.)

Rebecca Harbin said...

I changed my name when I got married a month ago. Even though I had my name for 27 years, and will have to change everything professionally I did it. Sometimes when I see my new name written out or am asked to sign something, it feels really stange, quite odd. But most of the time it makes me feel like I am part of a new family, and it fills me with a warmth and love, I didn't think such a little thing could bring.

Tish said...

I'm sorry... the name changing idea went right out the window as soon as I read that they allow other adults into their relationship lol...elephant in the room!

I'm taking my fella's last name...I'm in my 30s so I feel you on feeling like it's my identity, but as an actress I'm curious how the public will perceive an already ambiguous looking mixed chick with the last name "Arana" Mr. & Mrs. Spider in the house!

Kiley Kate said...

I've always wanted to hyphenate. When my mom got married she moved her maiden name to her middle name, and I would consider doing that if the names truly didn't sound right together, but Morgan goes with most everything anyway...

Erin Barlow said...

When I became engaged, my first instinct was to keep my name. Then, as the engagement progressed, I began getting some serious pushback from my family, and I started to doubt my decision. I drove my married girlfriends crazy with questions about why they changed or why they didn't, and I was so surprised to see that it can be such a divisive issue. The point should be that we all have the option to do what feels best for each of us, right?
The best advice I received was from a high school friend, who made the decision to take her husband's last name after they had been married for four years. She said she'd always wanted to keep her own name, but over time, her feelings changed, and then she did the work to change it. The end.
So, I followed my instincts and kept my name. I don't get angry when someone refers to me as "Mrs. Wilson," I just politely correct them and move on. We've been married for four months now, and so far, no hiccups. I also particularly love hearing my husband introduce me as, "This is my wife, Erin Barlow."

Heldine said...

As an actor, I don't plan on changing my last name. In Filipino tradition, children take their mothers' last name as their middle name and their fathers' last name as their last name, making it easy to tell who your parents are and how you are related to other people. My boyfriend and I talk about kids occasionally, and I think we both agreed that was a good rule to stick to. I might tweak it a bit and give my children my middle name instead of last name because I like my middle name better.

Lizzie - The Dancing Toad Blog said...

I never liked my last name growing up. It reminded me of my father, who left our family when my mother was pregnant with her 13th child. Yes, her 13th. I felt deserted. And the only thing I felt I had in common with this man was his last name. So, I was happy to change it when I got married.

Kaylee said...

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Bri (like the cheese) said...

I took my husband's last name. We're traditional Euro-Americans like that. I have a friend who was already established in her career & was not about to take her husband's last name (think Lipshitz), so they made an agreement that they would either each keep their own, or they would both change their names (she thought this would get her out of changing hers at all). He surprised her before the wedding by changing his name to his mother's maiden name & she took that.
My sister's husband was raised by his step-father for most of his memorable life. His step-father looked in to officially adopting him as an adult, but since he was an adult already, he couldn't be adopted. So he just changed his name to match his parents'. He surprised his parents at the engagement part by announcing that my sister would not be Mrs. 'birthfatherslastname,' rather, Mrs. 'step-fatherslastname.'

Anyasr said...

I have a compound last name. Every time they ask me about it, I need to spell it S-A-N R-O-M-A-N... it's a pain in the butt. Plus it doesn't fit in most computer systems. So I am DEFINITELY changing my last name to Rinck.

Kasih Co-op said...

so my last name is Darmawan (I'm Indonesian...) my husband's last name is Wang...

We sometime call ourselves the Darmawangs

But I'm sure my parents in law wont be too happy about that if we really do it... When we have kids, we'll just name it under his last name

Cmankoski said...

I changed my last name but made my Maiden name my middle name. I really loved my husbands last name, so I think that's why I never thought twice about it.

Jacki said...

I think "Team [lastname]" is cute :) I'm a Souza, he's a Carr, and if we get married I'll stick Souza in place of my middle name and take Carr as my last name.

When I married my ex-husband I did not change my name. It felt wrong, and I really didn't want to do it. And my ex's last name was even more consistently misspelled/mispronounced than my own, and I liked mine better. Many things are different in my current relationship. I'm not entirely sure why I feel so differently about it now, but I do.

All that said, I think people should be free to do what is right for them, whatever that means. It is silly that a woman is expected to change her name. My cousin asked me, over a year after my divorce, if I had "kept my name or gone back to Souza" to which I replied that I had kept MY name, Souza, the whole time. Even the judge at my divorce hearing asked me half a dozen times if Souza was my original name and I really wanted to keep it!

Ebonie Nicole said...

I'm pretty old school when it comes to marriage and family for the most part. My husband and I married in July, and I happily took his last name. As for my career, I've always marketed myself as Ebonie Nicole (my first and middle name) because I knew I would one day marry and change my last name. Easy peasy :-)

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Cari Watts-Savage said...

I decided on hyphenating my name and am so glad I did. I like the suggestion of saying the name-name household. I'll have to use that. Read my post about my name change here: http://lovelydaytomorrow.blogspot.com/2012/07/whats-in-name.html

Molli said...

Thanks for sharing this post! This is the only reasoning for changing my last name that resonates with me. I got married a year and a half ago and have been going back and forth ever since. I never wanted to change my last name (even as a little girl). I don't like the history of the tradition (ownership) and I don't like that it's assumed that I will change my name and how casually I'm expected to give up a piece of my identity. I like that my name represents all of my cultural history. Dropping my middle name to replace it with my maiden name and and taking my husband's last name, just feels like I'm changing my last name. I always told my husband that I didn't want to change my last name and he was fine with it, but now that we're married it bothers him that we don't have the same last name. And of course he means his last name (he is not up for changing his or creating a new last name, because of course, " it's his identity"). I don't want to hyphenate because my last name is already long and hard to pronounce. The only reason I'm considering changing my last name is that I know it would make my husband happy and I don't have a great history with my Dad so a part of me would be happy to drop the last name. But I still feel like it's a part of my identity so I keep going in circles. Oddly I don't mind being called my husband's last name from time to time, but I do find it irritating to have mail addressed to "mr and mrs hisFirstname his LastName" or simply my first name and hits last name. I have no idea what we'll do if we have kids. The more I read everyone's responses I feel like there's a pretty big point I didn't think of-- either way it's a man's name but at least your husband's is one you choose. Though I have to admit I would feel slightly embarrased, like I gave in if I changed my name (and thus the going around in circles).

JessieMC said...

I know this is an old post, but I just read it and had to share. When my husband and I got married, we both changed our names:
We both took my maiden name as our middle name (subsequently "dropping" our original middle names) and then both took his last name as our last name. So, we have the same middle name and the same last name.

This was the right decision/compromise for us because we didn't want different last names and didn't want to hypenate (due to length), and we felt it was important that we each do something to signify the union of our families and our union together.

We initially got a lot of push-back from the Social Security Administration (we live in a fairly conservative state), but once we pointed out that it's sexual discrimination to allow the woman, but not the man, to change her/his name due to marriage, they obliged. :)

Allison Pillinger said...

Hi Sara -
Having four names (first middle maiden married) is what I want as well. Would love to pick your brain on the process (as I heard the four-name-change could be trickier). Do you live in NY?
Thanks!
Alli

Allison Pillinger said...

Hi Sara -
Having four names (first middle maiden married) is what I want as well. Would love to pick your brain on the process (as I heard the four-name-change could be trickier). Do you live in NY?
Thanks!
Alli

youlittlebeauty said...

Stick to your guns Stephanie! If my fiance told me outright that I must change my name it would make me even more determined to keep my maiden name. How would he feel if he had to change his? My fiance has an extremely common last name, and my line is that if he isn't changing his (I would quite like us both to be hyphenated), then I'm not changing mine.

Jenn D said...

I love my last name! I don't know what I'll do when it comes time to decide.
Jenn
With Luck

Kristen Nicole said...

I did not change my name when I married. I thought about it, mostly because I detest the nicknames that people have derived from my last name over the years. However from a very young age (c. 6 or 7 yrs) I was affronted by the patriarchial custom of referring to a married woman as Mrs. Husband's-first-name Husband's-last-name. My paternal grandmother was a widow since I was 2, and I balked at addressing envelopes to Mrs. Dead Husband. My very traditional mother and I would argue over this ad nauseum, and I would usually say at some point, "well I will return any letters I receive to Mrs. Husband as 'addressee unknown-return to sender'. Flashforward to my own marriage, and my husband (at the time, fiance) actually was the one to say that it was a weird custom. I was still on the fence, ironically thinking of all the traditional monograms and "from the Harrisons" I would be messing up, when my mother sat down to have a serious chat with me. She said, in all seriousness, "it would mean so much to Dan if you changed your name." I retorted, shocked, with, "have you met him? Because he told me the exact opposite!" From that point on my decision was easy... there would be no name change.
I respect many women's decisions to change their names, especially when their own last name is just a reminder of bad memories. What irritates me is when I hear someone changed their name because 'it just meant so much' to her husband to change to his name. Are you freaking kidding me? Tell him to evolve and get over his patriarchial, anachronistic, oppressive, narrisistic, and imperious predilictions before she sends him back to cave he crawled out of!

Kristen Nicole said...

My husband just picked up a prescription for me last weekend when I was sick and we have separate credit cards since this is the 21st century. I've had a separate last name from my husband for the almost 4 years of our marriage and never have a problem that doesn't involve fitting both our names on return address labels (buy them slightly larger is my solution).

helen parker said...


MY HUSBAND STEP MUM HATE HIM SO MUCH
My man died 6 weeks ago after 12 month illness where he required increasing amounts of oxygen. I was told 6 months previously that he was about to die and we moved heaven and earth to get him home from hospital. My wonderful strong man carried on for 6 months despite what everyone said. I stopped work and we spent nights and days together mostly with me watching him almost suffocate to death every day. one day in September when there was no one else around I lay down beside him and fell asleep, when I woke up he had gone. I never believe that my husband death was natural..cos i know those that did not want his progress, every night and day i always cry i fill like killing my self because things where hard on my side, my husband family throw us out of the house me and my children where on the street begging for food and water..cos no money any more. one of my friend that i have not see for a very long time saw my on a street and she called my name, when i turn i was an old friend of mine, i explain every thing that happen she gave us accommodation and told me my husband death was not natural she told me i should not worry she is going to help me, will contact Dr Opingo who salve family problems i explain every thing about my husband to him and he said he will help me know about the death of my husband i was very happy that very day...cos i no something was behind my husband death and i see who is going to help me out, Dr ask me to send my husband picture, surname, and his name i did every thing immediately. After Dr Opingo have use the information i send him, two weeks later my husband step mum confess that she was the one that kill my husband through sickness...i am so happy i am free because the family believe that i kill my husband to take over the properties. thank you once again HELEN my best friend for introducing me to Dr Opingo you can contact his email if you still need his help alterofcandletemple@gmail.com

Bonnie Lassie said...

As my parents got divorced my mom kept the name of my dad. After a year she married again and took the name of her new husband. So my sister (from the second marriage) got another name than the three children (from the first marriage). After the second marriage got divorced too, she changed her name again and took her maiden name. She always had to take different identity cards with her, old ones, to make sure everybody belief that we are her children. We always had to explain why our mother got another name than our dad and our sister. Kind of confusing tough.

The name of my father is a very unique name. But its also not easy to pronounce right. In the country i live we are the only family with this name. The name of my fiancé is more popular. I do not have a strong connection to my father and his family so because of this my last name is not so important to me.

So if i'd marry once. I don't now yet what id do. Because my name is so unique but I'd love to just have a simple easy-to-pronounce name like my fiancé's.

PS: Bonnie Lassie is not my real name ;)

Unknown said...

I've been struggling with this quite a bit since I got engaged in November last year. My last name is awesome (Slagowski). And I love having Polish heritage. My dad (and literally all of his brothers) had only girls, all of whom are now married and took their husbands name. I'm also the only one of my parents children with this last name, so I'm basically it. If I change my name, after the older generation of Slagowskis are gone, that's it.
When I brought up the idea of hyphenation, my fiance was not on board. "I wish you would just take MY name"...but I really and truly do not want to lose my last name.

Nichole Clouse said...

I've been debating for almost three years now about whether to take my fiances last name or not. But I keep coming back to my original decision to keep my maiden name. My mom died when I was 8 years old and I'm currently 23 so she has been gone a long time. Even though my mom kept my dad's last name after they were divorced, I still feel a connection with the name. My last name is the only thing I have left of my mom's so I refuse to part with that. Mine and my fiance's son has my fiance's last name but I just can't picture myself with the last name Deem.

PALFO said...

This is interesting, I guess it is definitively cultural as well. In Italy where I am from, rarely women change their name. I certainly did not even think about it! but I did not marry an Italian men, rather a british one and my mother in law was not impressed !

Federica
Wed In Rome and More

Brooke Z Cooper said...

i kept my last name, partly because "zaleski" sounds better than "cooper", but mostly just because i didn't feel like the hassle of getting it changed.. i'll go by either name, i just sign all me legal stuff with my maiden name.

niveousmoon said...

I had a painful Scottish surname that no one could ever pronounce. I hated it. My husband decided to take his mother's surname as his father left when he was young. So we both have his mother's surname. Now my surname is Spanish and still no one can pronounce it!

I do wonder what will happen when kiddies with hyphenated surnames get married to other kiddies with hyphenated surnames?!

john Norm said...

Why not yours? Are you not a person too? one thin you can always be sure of is the mother - but never the father. Women are now people too and not property.

john Norm said...

you ended up that way because your mother wasn't smart enough to realize she is also a person - and had the upper hand on giving you her last name - but she didn't realize that. Americans are old fashioned people if you go to any spanish speaking countries all children have 2 last names father and ending with the mothers...the mothers last name is passed down to the children....because the mother counts and is the actual parentage you can be sure of 100%. Its worked in those countries for 1000's of years.

john Norm said...

DO YOU HEAR YOURSELF? ARE YOU AN OPPRESSED LADY? YOU ASSUMED THAT YOU SHOULD DO ALL THE WORK TO CHANGE IT? WHAT ABOUT HIM? can't he change his last name to yours? why can't the kiddo's take your last name? its 2013. Or the girls under you and the boys under him? Look at spain what they do there....all children end with the mothers last name and they have 2 last names because the parents are equal! both sides count.

john Norm said...

One thing i don't understand do you women have or hold degrees? have any of you women been to college/university? because changing your last name costs you alot more - its not fair for women to want to go through this type of hell. You mightest well not give birth certificates to women with this old fashioned attitude of changing your last name.

What about divorce? Non of you mention about real life issues such as divorce and dying with your ex-husbands last name and not your own family - isn't family important to you women? Also what about the cost the time and money spent on changing and removing and readding etc 2nd marriages - women WAKE UP! If he doesn't change his last name to yours perhaps he didn't love you that much - you obviously love him too much or just hate yourselves....i'm not trying to be rude but you have to admit i have point.

I wouldn't want my daughter to change her last name like she is property and i don't like the term "maidan name" sounds like an old lady name...its your BIRTH NAME! its your real name learn to accept it and be proud of you who you are an individual do what they do it spain, everyone is equal and all children go under the mothers name there anyway...you are taking care of the children and birthing them do you not think your mothers side counts - fight and keep your rights to your name.

Sandra Warning Holbeck said...

My husband and I took both of our names, just like the couple in the New York Times. We liked the idea that when we marry, we become each others closest family, and that we unite each others families into one big family. A new branch on a big family tree, growing :-)

ladybug16 said...

Nope, I would never change my last name. To each their own but I don't think it's necessary in this day and age. Our kids will have a hyphenated last name. That's the fairest way to do it in my opinion.

Irene Dutilh said...

In Spain you NEVER change your surname when you get married(I don't even think is legal to change it that way). Children get their parents surnames together, firt you father and last your mother -for example my dad is F. Dutilh Carvajal and my mum is T. Fernández Morodod, so I am Irene Dutilh Fernández-. The first time I relize in the rest of the world women change their surname, I was so sock!

So, as you can imagine I never thought about changing my surname. But then I met my sweet Irirsh boyfriend... I know he would love me to be Mrs. Lindsay (in time). So, for the first time in my life I am kind of thinking about it.

If I finally do it, will be in case I get an Irish passport. If I decide in a future to apply for an irish passport will be throug marriage. So MAYBE then I will be Irene Dutilh-Lindsay.

Ikedi Ero said...

I am Nagalia Pendragon from Canada, after six years in marriage with my husband with 3 kids, he suddenly started going out with other women and coming home late, each time i confronted him it turns out to be a fight and he always treathened to divorce me at all time, my marriage was gradually coming to an end. i tried all i could to stop him from this unruly attitude but all proved abortive, until i saw a post in the forum about a spell caster who helps people cast spell on marriage and relationship problems, at first i doubted it but decided to give it a try, when i contacted this Spell caster Dr. Ikedi Ero via email, he helped me cast a spell and within 4 hours my husband came back apologizing for all he has done and promised never to do such again and today we are happily together again. Contact this Great spell caster for your marriage or relationship issues via this email; ikedispiritualtemple@gmail.com

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DiploNerds said...

I have not changed my name yet, and going on two years of marriage. It hasn't been a big deal yet, but I know will be once we have kids. I plan to change my name only by adding my husbands last name and moving my maiden name to a second middle name. I will have 4 names then.

I love my maiden name, I am the last in my family to carry it and I just like the way my name flows. It has been my identity for so long.

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David Carter said...

My name is Vanessa am here to testify the great work of doctor OTUOBALLA,OTUOBALLA is a powerful spell caster who helped me in getting the love of my life back,i and my boyfriend were in a relationship for over 10 years since our high school days we live and grow up together as one we love and care for each other so much,we assist each other in time of problems and financial needs i love him with the most deepest part of my heart i never thought that any thing could happened between both of us,so after schooling we graduated same year we were both working and we earn good money monthly the most surprising part of it was that my boyfriend never thought of we getting marry in mind i thought that is not yet time for that,because we love each other in my believe he can never betrayed me,so few years back i travel to USA to pay my uncle a visit i spent 2 months their so when i return i discovered that my boyfriend is having an affair with some one else this person am talking about happen to be his manager in the company were he works so i believe she most have use her money and her fiances to get him,i feel the world was over for me because they were even planning to get marry very soon i was confuse i don't know what to do because i can't afford to loose him to another woman after 14 years of our relationship so now is time for we to come together as one family bring up our children together now he what to live me and go for another how can i love again? i was about drugging my self to death one day i feat sick my parents took me to the hospital for treatment i spent 3 days in the hospital the doctor said to my parents that am under going a broken heart through the hands of a trusted love one,i latter head that my ex boyfriend and his new lover are about getting married,i cried day and night every day of my life i feel like living this world because i don't have any reason living again on this planet called earth,one day the nurse that was taking care of me when i was in the hospital came to visit me at home i told her all my stories about my broken heart from a trusted lover,she feel petty for me and she advise me,she introduce me to an online spell caster called DOCTOR OTUOBALLA who also help her when she was having problem in her marriage,i followed DOCTOR OTUOBALLA online and i obeyed him and i did every thing he ask me to do he is a kind man and he is harmless,DOCTOR OTUOBALLA cast a spell for me after 7 days my ex boyfriend came back to me and beg me for forgiveness,so 2 months latter we got married as am talking to you all now we are the best couple so far,spell is real and there are still real spell caster,all thanks to DOCTOR OTUOBALLA,if you need his help you can email him with this email: otuoballaspelltemple@live.com

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Jennifer M. said...

Maybe this varies by region, but it kind of surprises me that so many of you commenters hadn't even considered changing your name upon getting married. I can't think of a single woman that I've ever met who didn't take her husband's name. I did know one woman who hyphenated, but really in my experience that's super rare. I am not married yet, but honestly it has never occurred to me to not take my husband's name when I marry. To me that just seems normal for a family to all have the same last name. I'm curious - those of you who say it hadn't occurred to you to take your husband's name - what is your mom or grandma's last name? Does everyone in your family have separate last names? Not judging, just honestly curious since I've never met any married couples who had different last names as each other. I can see why some people may choose to make that choice, but to say it like it hadn't even occurred to you to do things traditionally seems odd and kind of infers that everyone in your life is nontraditional as well, which I kind of doubt to be the case.

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My Name is Ms. Tracy Smith, I was married to my husband for 13 years and we were both bless with three children, living together as one love, until 2009 when things was no longer the way the was [when he lost his job]. But when he later gets a new job 6 months after, he stated sleeping outside our matrimonial home. Only for me to find out that he was having an affair with the lady that gave he the job. since that day, when i called him, he don’t longer pick up my calls and he nothing since to come out good. Yet my husbands just still keep on seeing the lady. Until I met a very good friend of my who was also having a similar problem, who introduced me to a very good love spell caster. But i told her that if it has to do with things that i am not interested, but she said that it has nothing to do with pay first. but the only thing he was ask to do was just to go and buy the items to cast the spell, and that was what she did. And she gave me the spell caster e-mail address and phone number. When i contacted him, i was so surprise when he said that if i have the faith that i will get my husband back in the nest three [3] day, and off which it was really so. but i was so shock that i did not pay any thing to Dr.obadam, but my husband was on his knells begging me and the children for forgiveness. This testimony is just the price i have to pay. This man obadam is good and he is the author of my happiness. His e-mail address obadamtemple gmail.com

RETROSMITH. said...

Wow, such a great discussion. I love reading all the comments from everyone! I, like a few others, am a Smith. My partner's name is the opposite - long and German. I am extremely proud of my branch of Smith history, so do not want to lose that part of my every day identity. I would also, however, like to be able to associate with my (maybe one day) husband with a common name. Unfortunately my name would become astronomically long if I tried to incorporate both of our last names.

Have there been any Smiths who have kept there names, or has everyone changed names in search of something less common?

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CINDY KYLIE said...

I'm here to thank the great love spell caster Dr Lawrence for reviving my marriage and my family, I have been all alone ever since my husband left me and my 5years old child for a very long time I always think how i could have him back and make this family together again though is not as easy as that, Then i found out how Dr Lawrence had help many people restore their marriages i emailed him and he cast a restoration spell that heal and brought back my husband i am saying big thank you to the source of my happiness drlawrencespelltemple@hotmail.com

CINDY KYLIE said...

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hello friends sorry if i may say this but i really need to let you all know that a great thing that has happen in my life and also in the life of my son, I have been sick for the last 6 months and i lost my job i had no to run to all that was left with me was my only son lovely son who brought the solution to my problem although i never know how it all happen but all i can say is thanks be to Dr Ekaka who help me with healing spell through my son and after 7days i started seeing changes in my life. I will advice anyone in need of help to contact him on his email: ekakaspelltemple@yahoo.com

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Aslı said...

When my parents completely cut the ties I no longer felt myself belong to my father's family and used my mom's maiden name with my first name shortened on every non-formal ocassion. My dad's surname is pretty ugly anyway. But since I don't own my mom's maiden name officially I can't wait to get married to my fiance and finally change my surname officially.

Even my signature is a sloppy draft of my name and I'm still working on finding smth cool for my prospective surname.

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I am still debating whether to change my name when we marry (in three months) because I already have a very established career. I also like the thought of having the same name in order to feel as a "unit". I thought it was sweet that my fiancé jokingly told me it would be very cute if we changed our names together to VanMartin. (Mine is Martin and his is VanBussum.) I also love that he is totally fine if I choose to keep my own name. :)

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Hello every one i am Gracy Dumez a German citizen but with my family here i Canada, i had some problems in my marriage because thought i keep some secrets from him before we get married and i was unable to get pregnant because my husband hate it to sex with me that again develop to my filter problem but before we get married he so much love me and i love him as much so i decide to search for a solution on marriage site and from friends and i find so many spiritual doctors then i contacted three of them one after the other but they all disappointed me till my family seeks for divorce and he happily divorce me because he already find another lady. so while i was alone with pains i still look for solution every where till a meet with a friend of mine that just came from Germany then she direct me to this site where i read about great oshogumspelltemple@live.com on how he solve marriage, relationships, family , healing and so many testimony about him then me and my friend decide to contact despite i he told me about the materials that i must provide i just have to do all that he told me because of what other persons said about him. three days after we have done all he ask me to do, he said he have done everything i did not know how it will work because i could even contact my husband again he already block but i was so sup-rice Hashberg call our home line to ask of me. well we are happily married now with one kids but expecting another one soon. My dear contact oshogumspelltemple@live.com if you have any problem that give you pain. contact oshogumspelltemple@live.com today he is helpful and excellent

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lucy denny said...

I have to give this miraculous testimony, which is so unbelievable until now. I had a problem with my Ex husband 2years ago, which lead to our break up. when he broke up with me, I was not myself again, i felt so empty inside me, my love and financial situation became worst, until a close friend of mine lucy told me about a spell caster who helped her in the same problem too his name is Dr Ekaka. I email ekakaspelltemple@yahoo.com the spell caster and i told him my problem and i did what he asked of me, to cut the long story short. Before i knew what was happening my husband gave me a call and told me that he was coming back to me in just 2days and was so happy to have him back to me. We have two kids together and we are happy with ourselves. Thanks to Dr Ekaka for saving my relationship and for also saving others own too. continue your good work, If you are interested to contact him and testify this blessings like me, the great spell caster email address is ekakaspelltemple@yahoo.com you are the best among all the spell caster online I hope you see my testimonies and also pray for my family too

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My name is emma brown, i want to use this medium to testify of how i got back my boyfriend after 8months of separation, I and my boyfriend broke up on the 12th of August because he felt i was cheating on him with a male friend of mine, i tried all i could to explain to him but he paid deaf ears, i was emotionally devastated because i really did love him until i saw a post on the internet about a spell caster, who helps people gain back their lost love, at first i doubted if it was real because i never believed in spells but decided to give it a try, when i contacted this spell caster, he helped me cast a re-union spell and i got back my boyfriend within 48hours (2days). Contact this great spell caster for your relationship or marriage problems via email dradelabispelltemple@gmail.com....
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brown emma said...

My name is emma brown, i want to use this medium to testify of how i got back my boyfriend after 8months of separation, I and my boyfriend broke up on the 12th of August because he felt i was cheating on him with a male friend of mine, i tried all i could to explain to him but he paid deaf ears, i was emotionally devastated because i really did love him until i saw a post on the internet about a spell caster, who helps people gain back their lost love, at first i doubted if it was real because i never believed in spells but decided to give it a try, when i contacted this spell caster, he helped me cast a re-union spell and i got back my boyfriend within 48hours (2days). Contact this great spell caster for your relationship or marriage problems via email dradelabispelltemple@gmail.com....
if you are out there passing through any of
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1) If you want your ex back.
(2) if you always have bad dreams.
(3) You want to be promoted in your office.
(4) You want women/men to run after you.
(5) If you want a child.
(6) You want to be rich.
(7) You want to tie your husband/wife to be
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(8) If you need financial assistance.
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Tara M said...

I didn't change my name when I got married last year and I have no plans to change it in the future. He briefly entertained the idea of changing to my name but didn't for professional reasons. If we have kids the plan is to hyphenate and if they don't like it they can go by whatever name they prefer. I don't normally correct people when they assume we have the same last name, but it does kind of bother me when people call us Mr & Mrs His Full Name, as if I ceased to be a full person when I got married.

Julie Chase said...

I didn't change my name when I got married a year and a half ago. I have some friends who did, some who didn't, one who hyphenated, and a male friend who hyphenated his name along with his wife. It's such a personal decision.

For me, I was attached to my name and saw no reason to change it. It means nothing in terms of my relationship, we're as devoted and together as can be.

Mlog and Clog said...

I didn't actually care, but I ended up changing my name and lately I've been so glad I did. Our three year old girl loves doing a family cheer where we put our hands together and yell "Go Clarks!" Glad we all are Clarks for it! She's so adorable and gets so excited about it.

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Men and women write short posts explaining their decisions to change, ... amenshybridshorts.blogspot.com

Liz Heaver - Text & Context said...

I've always felt open to changing my name if and when I ever get married but as my partner was adopted and his name has no family connection behind it I feel it would not make much sense to take on that name. Especially if we have kids one day and they have no other relatives with the same last name as them.

privateyhaz said...

Well, I changed my last name. One reason is because I was looking forward to a marital harmony and that will never be acquired if I will decide not to change my name. My husband's family has been very strict about it and so as to not face any difficulties years after, I have just decided to change it. With regards to the hardship of changing the legal documents for organizations and companies, I have used I'm a Mrs.'s services where they offer efficient name change services.

Aditya Garg said...

It seems chutzpa to change name. I am a wedding planner in gurgaon and I never suggest my clients to do that. Never do that.

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Ann said...

I was flat out excited to change my last name! So tired of having to spell it all the time for people:) I also liked the hyphenating idea, but I thought that it was cumbersome. Kids played a role, but I firmly established that after 9 months of suffering the monsters would have my last name regardless. At the end of the day, though, I really was happy to let go of my name (retaining only my first and middle name) and he was excited but supportive either way.
Oddly enough, I did get a puppy as a wedding present and his nickname is now the same as the nickname of my last name. So we kept the maiden name around ;)

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